The upshot was that she was grounded until she brought the algebra grade up to a B. She spent the whole of last weekend at home missing several fun things, because she was doing her algebra homework. As of Tuesday, her math teacher informed me that her grade now stands at a C. This is an improvement, but the agreement was that she raise it to a B.
Yesterday, I got a call from her friend's mother. Peaches was supposed to be spending all of this weekend at the friend's house, and the mother was really looking forward to my daughter's visit. She was calling and petitioning an exception. I explained the situation to her, only to have a grown woman - a parent - whine to me about how it didn't seem fair.
What the hell is happening to adults? When did grownups turn into such a bunch of milquetoasts when it comes to discipline? First the math teacher who seems singularly incapable of saying "No, you may not leave my class before it's over," then the student council teacher who allows her to neglect her academic classes in favor of Advanced Food Service, and then another parent intimating that I'm being "unfair" by establishing rules and sticking to them.
HAVE YOU PEOPLE ALL GONE INSANE?
I'm disgusted. I'm disappointed. I'm angry at having to justify myself and my parenting methods to people who think that the result of those methods, my daughter, is so wonderful that they feel cheated at being deprived of her presence.
Come on, people! Discipline is a GOOD THING. The word comes from the Latin discipulus, which means student. It means TO TEACH. Showing your children that there are consequences for actions, good and bad, is not punishing. It's teaching. When you teach your child that failing to do what's expected of him/her results in loss of grade, loss of privileges, etc., that's not punishment. That's teaching a lesson that's best learned now, while the stakes are small. At my age, failure to perform results in loss of job, which results in loss of house, car, etc.
Okay, okay, I'm done ranting. But seriously, I want to make a parenting handbook for all of these bozos. It's driving me nuts.