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STFU Already!

I have seen more bitchy posts about Valentine's Day than I can shake a mouse at, and I'm sick of them. If you guys spent half the time reading a book or going for a walk or cooking a nice meal that you spend bitching about being inundated with Valentine's Day propaganda, you wouldn't even NOTICE Valentine's Day.

For pity's sake, you'd think you people aren't in control of your own brains. Hallmark tells you that you should buy a card and you freak out because you don't have anyone to give it to. Do you feel the same kind of panic when Secretary's Day rolls around and you don't have one of those either? Do you obsess about that for weeks beforehand and go around moaning and grousing all day because you're being bombarded with Secretary's Day propaganda but, once again, you're Sad and Secretary-less? Do you cry yourself to sleep on Arbor Day because you live in an apartment and can't plant a tree in your yard?

I'm Buddhist. For the entire lives of my children, the older one of whom is 15, I have been inundated with propaganda that says "If you don't go into debt buying your children a Nintendo Wii, YOU SUCK." And I'll admit, I do give in to a certain extent. Every year, we buy a tiny little rosemary tree with the intent of planting it outside at the end of the season and having fresh rosemary all spring (and it invariably dies by early January) and we decorate it with strings of popcorn and cranberries which we feed to the chickens on January second. I give my children gifts and I send cards, but mostly, I just groove on seeing happy people being nice to each other. I happen to like the "Christmas spirit," even if that's not what I would call it. I'd call it people acting a little more Buddhist. I don't spend all my time BITCHING about how I'm being guilted into being nice to people because of this totally artificial holiday (and what are the non-artificial holidays? solstice?).

On Valentine's Day, don't think about the Eros that you're missing out on. There are so many other kinds of love that you could be thinking about! How about some Filias? Call your parents and tell them that you love them! How about Agape? Tell your friends how great you think they are! Some Caritas would be nice. Cut the human race some slack and assume that not everyone is out to make you miserable.


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Feb. 15th, 2007 11:41 am (UTC)
Thank you.
Feb. 15th, 2007 01:50 pm (UTC)
I truly do adore you.
Feb. 15th, 2007 04:51 pm (UTC)
Feb. 15th, 2007 04:55 pm (UTC)
mmm... carnitas.

Feb. 15th, 2007 05:08 pm (UTC)
You're such a boy (food = love).

And I think that you're such a LUCKY boy. I read your post and got all choked up over it.
Feb. 15th, 2007 06:31 pm (UTC)
Well, to be fair, the expectations to plant a tree are hardly comparable to the expectations to find True Love.

I was going to write a post saying: if you can celebrate Valentine's Day with a sweetie or sweeties, wonderful, I truly hope you enjoy yourselves. If you're feeling angry or sad, I'm sorry, I understand. But I was going to try and use Valentine's Day as a way to celebrate love instead of romance.

Anyway, I had too many other things occupying my time and brainpower, so I never got around to it. Either the post or the observance of V-Day as a celebration of love in the larger sense. Yup, this looks like my life.

Also, 15 already? Yeesh!
Feb. 15th, 2007 08:48 pm (UTC)
Aw, I'm OK with all the bitching. I've been immersed in THE NEEDY in the past myself, already seemingly on the cusp of not being able to keep it all together, and even incidental running into V-Day adverts felt like a "YOU WILL DIE ALONE MWAHAHAHA" klaxon ringing at 115 decibels. So I give such folks a pass.

Of course, now I cheat. I don't listen to the radio in the car; TiVo lets me skip past all advertisements on the television; I don't make it out of the house enough to be innundated with tacky holiday-appropriate end displays. Yesterday didn't feel like Valentine's Day! Decemeber didn't feel like Christmas! Nothing feels like anything anymore. (Whether this is a net positive or not is still up for some debate.)

(And I consider a holiday "artificial" if it's trying to obligate me to do anything. Eating and drinking with folks I like is in; mandatory gift-purchasing is out. Which leaves something like New Year's Eve, Thanksgiving, the Super Bowl, and possibly my birthday as the only "real" holidays. :-)
Feb. 15th, 2007 08:51 pm (UTC)
Your birthday isn't a holiday - MINE is. You even get a day off work to celebrate it. That's why they call it "MEMORIAL Day." So you can REMEMBER my birthday.

You don't have to get me a gift, but calling my mother and thanking her wouldn't be out of line.
Feb. 15th, 2007 08:49 pm (UTC)

It was Valentine's Day yesterday? Was that what all that pink and red and flowers were about?

Seriously. Thank you. That was long past needing to be said.
Feb. 16th, 2007 12:24 am (UTC)
but i thought that the express purpose of LJ was to post self-indulgent whines/rants? oh well...
Feb. 16th, 2007 12:39 am (UTC)
You = awesome. If this weren't friendslocked I would link and pimp it in my blog, big time. (Although like Twon I sympathise with the whiners and used to be one myself. Nothing like not dating until grad school and spending two years of that time in unrequited love to make one loathe V-Day.)
Feb. 16th, 2007 12:47 am (UTC)

Go forth! Link! Pimp! And then be happy because your love is no longer unrequited. That's good.
Feb. 16th, 2007 01:01 am (UTC)
Yay unlocked! Pimping accomplished!

And I'm always happy my love is requited now. That unrequited thing sucked dead donkey ass. (Even moreso when he decided he didn't even want to be friends anymore and booted me like a hot rock via email. Asshole. Grr.) I am grateful every day. :)
Feb. 16th, 2007 09:23 am (UTC)
While I enjoyed reading this, I think Secretary's Day and Arbor Day aren't good comparisons. A closer one would be, say, Father's Day for people who don't have a father. Being sad at the reminder is a perfectly natural response.
Feb. 16th, 2007 04:08 pm (UTC)
*Being* sad is one thing, and I agree, perfectly natural given the circumstances. It's not the *being* sad I find idiotic.

It's the endless going on about "I'm being bombarded with Valentine's Day propaganda and it's not even a real holiday and nobody loves me and Hallmark is to blame for my wretched love life and WAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH...." I didn't see that so much from you, but trust me, I've seen TONS of it.

Yup. Somebody made up Valentine's Day. And Father's Day, too, for that matter. And Arbor Day and Memorial Day. And you don't have to observe any of them.
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